I just realized the reason so many people will call someone “an abuser” when the facts of the matter indicate instead that the person is actually simply “an asshole” is because you can’t just create engaging social media guilt by association drama by demanding people unfollow x or y if they’re simply an asshole, but if you re-reframe banal assholishness as genuine psychological abuse it means you can also start shit with anybody who associates with the asshole in question. That might also explain why people say “this person is a gaslighter” when they instead mean “this person says lies”.
Hey op, I’m trying to read you in the best way possible, but this sounds EXTREMELY insensitive to survivors of abuse.
You’re not succeeding at reading me in the best way possible. You have an unlimited amount of tries though.
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